31st
TO BE IN LOVE
What does it mean to be “in love”..what exactly does that statement evoke in us..What are we looking for? what do we want from “love”?
In my life time, I have been ” in love” many times. I knew he was for me, then when it fell through for what ever reason, I was devastated till the next time , then back on the spinning wheel with the same emotions .
I believe that at the beginning of a relationship,we are “in love ” with love. The feeling of elation, walking on air as it were..There is an extra skip in your step. You feel like a woman, you are dotted on and surrounded by compliments, word of endearment etc. You are wined and dined and put on the proverbial pedestal. The sex is great and spring is in the air, even in the winter : tra la!!! Then reality sneaks in , the veil of “amour” is lifted and you begin to see that the attentive prince charming is just a mere mortal . Alas!!
Webster’s defines LOVE as, a deep affection for another: personal attachment: But there is more to love ..there is acceptance, patience, understanding, communication, but most of all there is friendship, liking someone and loving someone are 2 different things..In a relationship these two emotions are necessary.
We want love for many reasons; companionship, a sense of belonging, someone to take care of us and carry the load, I believe this to be the norm in both men and women. Loneliness is very dissatisfying we all agree upon that. So having someone to “do” things with, or just the simple act of sitting next to each other is very rewarding to the soul.
So my dear children, never give up on your search for love..but remember, the one that you are searching for is a human being with frailties and insecurities, just as you are..Grow individually and together. The heated passion you started out with will turn to a secure, comfortable love that can endure any obstacles that may come your way.
I will end this blog with one statement, You are loved with a pure love that no human can phantom. It is the Love of God towards you…draw on that love as you search and grow.
MOM
